After a relationship ends, both the parties part ways and move on. However, in some cases, you may always find your ex nearby. Now, it can be either intentional to gain your attention or can be just luck.
In such situations, your ex may even try to talk to you. Understanding why you hate your ex so much is also very important to know how you can move on.
You are betrayed by your ex
In a relationship, trust is everything as it is the very foundation of a relationship. Once the trust is broken, there is no going back, and it affects your relationship very severely. If your ex betrays you, then you have the right to hate them.
It can be due to an affair, leaving you, or anything else. Betrayal is something that you never forget and is unforgivable.
You would love to watch your ex suffer forever just like you did after the betrayal. In such cases, you have all the reasons to hate your ex forever.
Reasons to hate your ex
The end of a relationship is not easy for anyone and can be very emotional and scary. But it is inevitable and may be due to your partner’s actions. Some things in life cannot be repaired once damaged, and there is no going back.
The relationship ends like that and you part ways with your ex. But the hate remains, and it won’t go away that easy.
Here are some top reasons why you should hate your ex (in some cases forever):
Your ex pushed you to the limit
Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean that you can do anything that you like. Your ex should understand this as there is a limit for everything. You cannot tolerate everything which eventually leads to fights and arguments.
If this happens for a long time, then there is no option but to get separated.
In such situations, you have all the right to be angry at your ex as they pushed you to the limit all the time. Due to this, you will hate your ex for the rest of your life.
Your ex forced you to get divorced
You were happy in your relationship and had the best time with your partner. However, out of the blue, your partner asked you to get a divorce and forced you to say yes. You were not expecting this and was not even your decision to begin with.
So you have all the reasons to hate your ex for forcing you to make your decision. Now if you have kids, they will also have to suffer the consequences of the decision that you two made.
After spending all those times together, you now wonder if they meant anything at all.
Your ex doesn’t love you anymore
After spending an amazing time together, you no longer feel the same love your partner used to have for you. Each passing day, your partner is losing interest in you and you feel abandoned and alone.
After some time, you cannot take it anymore and decide to separate from your partner.
Everyone desires to be loved by their partner for the rest of their life. But your ex never gave you the love you need which makes you hate them.
Feel embarrassed and ashamed in public
After divorcing your ex, it is very embarrassing to tell everyone that your life partner has left you and moved on. It makes you feel embarrassed and ashamed of all the times the two of you spend together.
You feel unworthy of love and have a difficult time trying to connect with other people. You suffer alone, and your ex doesn’t even bother to check on you.
All these feelings make you angry and hate your ex for the rest of your life. You can no longer walk proudly in public as you feel unlovable and unworthy of love.
You cannot let go of the past, but your ex moved on
Even after divorce, you may have difficulty trying to move in life. But soon you find that your ex has already moved on in their life and now having fun.
It makes your blood boil as you are the one who is still suffering after the divorce.
You cannot let go of the past; it always haunts you. Such feelings turn into anger which makes you hate your ex. You channel all the negativity in your life to your ex.
You had so many plans for the future
After committing to a relationship, you began to make plans for your future. It made you happy as you felt loved and wanted by your ex.
However, then you realize that your ex doesn’t have the same intention and wants to get divorced.
It just breaks your heart and makes you sad. After going through all this, you will never want to see your ex again in your life. However, if you have kids, then you will have to see them again and again. It will just make you hate your ex more than ever.
You have to explain everything to your kids
After you divorce your ex, you will have to explain to your kids why your ex is no longer with them. The kids are innocent and have no idea of what is going on.
You have to explain everything to your kids including the fact that you two are no longer together.
Seeing their reaction can be very painful and makes you very angry. All of this anger will turn into hate and you will wish that you never have to see the face of your ex.
Despite all this, you still cannot let go and fail to move on with life which just makes you hate your ex more than ever.
Here are a few things to do if you despise your ex
If your relationship didn’t end on a good end and you hate your ex, then you surely wouldn’t want to talk to your ex. In such situations, you will simply avoid your ex and move on.
If you hate your ex for some reason, then here are some things that you can try out to move on,
Stop talking to your ex
If you are still talking to your ex despite the fact that you hate them, then you need to stop all communications with them. If you continue to talk with them, you are only hurting yourself and it won’t give any better results in the future.
So, the best solution is to take a timeout and stop all communications with your ex. You can remove them from your social media accounts, stop talking on calls, and so on.
It will help you move on with your life and you no longer have to keep hating your ex.
Remove your ex from all social media platforms
The first thing you can do to avoid your ex is, to remove them from all your social media platforms. You can either unfriend them or simply block them.
This way, you will no longer have to worry about your ex invading your social life all the time.
Your ex will no longer be able to see your profile and message you all the time. You can finally have some peace and use your social media profiles carefree.
Focus on other things
There are so many things you can do in life other than just hating your ex. You need to shift your focus from your ex to other things and free your mind. Have fun with your friends and family as much as you can.
Your ex is your past and there is no point in hating them as it won’t change anything.
Instead, you need to focus on your future and all the things that you can do in life. So, try to shift your attention to good things in life and move on.
Whenever you see your ex, all your emotions burst together and you get angry. If you continue this for a long period, then you are only hurting yourself.
Whatever your reason may be for hating your ex, you also need to take care of yourself.
If you keep on hating your ex, then you will always end in a fight or argument with your ex whenever you come in contact. So, be positive and try to stay calm all the time by shifting your focus to other things in life. This way you won’t have to think about your ex all the time.
If you truly want to move on and stop hating your ex, then you need to try out this method. If you get busy and keep yourself preoccupied all the time, you won’t have any time to hate your ex.
You will be fully submerged in work which will help you a lot.
It is perfect for you if really want to move on with your life. This way you can fill your life with positivity and all that hate will also slowly fade away.
Spend more time with your family and friends
Whenever you see your ex, you get filled with hate and you cannot think anything else. Such hate will only hurt you in the long term. There is no reason for you to hate your ex who is just your past and nothing else.
So you can shift your focus to your family and friends and spend as much time as possible with them.
You can have a lot of fun with them all and keep yourself busy. This way you won’t have enough time to think about your ex at all.
You can also go on a vacation with your family or friends which will surely help you a lot.
Sleep well at night
As you hate your ex for some reason, you may notice that you are not getting enough sleep at night because you keep thinking about your ex. If you continue this, then it will have a negative effect on your body.
Whatever the reason may be for hating your ex, you need to take care of yourself. Thus, get enough sleep for your body to recover and stay healthy and fit.
If you don’t, then you will get too exhausted to do anything else.
Change your perspective about them
There is a reason why you hate your ex and there is no undoing it. But to ease the pain, you can change your perspective about them on so many things. It will help with the hate and you will be able to move on with lies.
Changing your perspective doesn’t mean that you will forgive them. It simply means that you will shift your focus to something else and move on.
You can look for other things in them which will help you with the hate.
Keep your emotions under control
When you think of your ex, you will notice that you lose control of your emotions and everything falls apart after that. If that is the case, then you need to keep your emotions under control at any cost.
You sure have your reason to hate your ex, but there is no point in hurting yourself in the process.
Thus, keep your emotions under control to prevent yourself from hurting others. You can try doing meditation or yoga which will help you learn a lot about your body. This way you will get busy and don’t have to trouble yourself with hating your ex.
Set some boundaries
Setting some boundaries is a great idea if you want to avoid your ex if you hate them. You can set any sort of boundaries as per your needs and you have full control over it.
With the right limits, you will have full control of how you engage with your ex.
This way you can do anything other than hating your ex. It will help you move on with life by shifting your focus away from your ex.
But if you two have kids together, then setting up boundaries will be quite difficult as there will be a lot of engagement between you two.
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