Making things work can sometimes be a struggle if you are in a long-distance relationship. If things haven’t been good lately, you can say some of these things via text to save your relationship.
They work equally for people who are looking for tips to have a better textual relationship.
Let them know that they are always on your mind.
Couples in long-distance relationships must work harder on mutual validation and expression of love. Let them know every day that they are always on your mind, no matter where you are or what you are doing. Since the only way of communication is texting, you have to constantly reassure them.
Appreciate their pictures.
Nowadays, we post pictures of everything going on in our lives on social media. Since you can’t compliment them directly, react to their photos and text them that they look beautiful/adorable. This clarifies that you pay attention to things going on in their lives, even when you aren’t together.
Ways to compliment someone’s pictures:
- Tell them that they are absolutely shining in the photo.
- Compare them with something beautiful or aesthetic.
- Mention a beautiful song/ actor that their photo reminds you of.
- Tell them that you have repeatedly been looking at their picture because you are mesmerized.
- Tell them their smile is intoxicating.
- Compliment their eye or a special physical attribute.
- Compliment their skin or expression in the photo.
- Compliment their hair if it especially appeals to you.
- Tell them how much you love their outfit.
- Point out something in the background that makes the photo even better.
Exaggerate your appreciation.
Sometimes, make your partner feel extra special to make up for the distance between you. So, spice up your compliments and say something like,” You looked great in that outfit! Can’t wait to meet you. Please wear it the day we meet.” This expresses your eagerness to reunite with them.
Make your compliments into questions.
The tone of your message changes equations very easily. So, instead of saying,” You are handsome’ or ‘You are beautiful, try saying something like,” Do you have any idea you looked the cutest in that dress? Or, ‘Do you know I get lost every time I look into your eyes?”
Always remind them what you love most about them.
Rather than constantly complimenting their outfits and appearances, make things sensual by saying good things about their perfect attributes that attract you the most. For example, compliment their beautiful smile or caring nature and say how you miss them every moment. Let them know about your constant adoration for them.
Compliment something you remember from when you met last time.
Always relive your memories of the time spent together to keep the spark alive in your long-distance relationship. Say things like, ‘Do you remember the face you made when I said something funny? I can’t wait to see it again!” In such relationships, holding on to the past is important.
Say that they make you happy even when you are far away from each other.
Your partner should be your biggest source of strength and inspiration, even if you are in a long-distance relationship. So, keep telling them how happy you are to have them in your life, and know that despite the miles between you, you are always connected in your hearts and souls.
Try to be adorable and childlike.
Keeping playfulness in your relationship is very important and also difficult in case you are in a long-distance relationship. You have to be spontaneous; for example, say things like ‘You are the Jerry to my Tom.’ Sounds stupid, but these little things work a lot to save a long-distance relationship.
Give them a sense of security.
Insecurity and jealousy creep into long-distance relationships very easily. So, you should make an effort to let your partner know that there is no reason to be insecure about your relationship. Reassure them by saying things like ‘You will always be the man/woman of my dreams, no matter what.”
Look forward to spending time together.
To keep things smooth, always talk about the time you are about to spend together. Discuss what you would do when you get back together. The mere excitement of seeing each other and getting back that personal touch will be enough to keep you hooked to each other via text.
Let them know that you don’t take them for granted.
Relationship problems begin when couples start taking each other for granted. You cannot hope for your relationship to just grow by itself; if you want to see it flourish, you have to make an effort. Reassure your partner that they are a priority by saying things like,” You will always mean the world to them!”
Tell your partner how they inspire you to be the best.
You don’t need to be together to inspire each other. Even when you are away from each other, tell them how they are a reason why you never stop chasing your dreams. Tell them how they’ve always motivated you to become a better human being and a more generous partner.
Ways to be an inspiration for people around you:
- Practice empathy, understand their emotions, and behave accordingly.
- Always ask the right questions that bring out the best in them.
- Let them know that you are aware of their emotional needs.
- Encourage them to use their strengths to the fullest.
- Learn to communicate effectively.
- Tell them how they can change themselves to become a better person.
- Be a leader; set goals for people to see and learn from.
- Be a good listener instead of being judgemental or critical.
- Focus on their emotional approach towards things.
- Be patient with them, and don’t rush to a conclusion.
Tell them how they bring out the best in you.
We all want a supportive and encouraging partner. So, if you think that you are losing touch with your partner in this long-distance relationship, tell them how they have made you a better person altogether. It means a lot when you tell someone that you always look up to them.
Text them how every day without them is painful.
It’s very tough not to be able to see or be with your loved one for a long time. Remind each other of this distance constantly so that when you reunite, it is a rush of emotions. Text them things like ‘I can’t bear to spend another day without you!’
Remind them they are your biggest priority.
As already mentioned, constant validation is the key to protecting mutual love and adoration in a long-distance relationship. So, text your partner every day and say things like, ‘You are so important to me. I can’t think of a relationship that’s more important to me!” This expresses your genuine emotions.
Express gratitude in every way possible.
You should be grateful for everything you do to make each other happy. Say things like ‘Thank you so much for sending me flowers on my birthday.’ or ‘Thank you for helping me out with that bank stuff.” These little notes of gratitude can be very beneficial for your relationship.
Say corny things every now and then.
A sweet message for your partner every now and then can make them feel better about the distance between you. Know that even the corniest message can instantly put a smile on their face, and they will know that you are ready to make all efforts to see them happy.
Let them know that they are your only choice.
If you want your partner to think of your relationship as a strong one based on love and trust, you have to assure him that you want nobody else but them in your life. Text them things like ‘You are my soulmate.” or ‘Nobody makes me happier than you do.
Text them at unexpected times.
Don’t wait for your partner to return home from work to text them. Even when you know they are busy, text them something like,” Hi. I know you are at work. Just popped in to say that I miss you!” This assures them that they are constantly on your mind.
Express your love in beautiful terms.
Sometimes, a simple ‘I love you might not be enough. Say something more beautiful like ‘I love you to the moon and back or ‘My love for you cannot be expressed in words.” This expresses that you are ready to go the extra mile to make your partner feel special.
Remind each other of the good memories spent together.
If you want to stay connected to your relationship despite the miles between you, remind each other of the good times you have spent together. Say something like, ‘Do you remember the crazy night we had on my birthday?” This will remind them why you make such a good pair.
Remind each other that your love is ever-growing.
The distance between you shouldn’t affect your love and respect for each other. Saying affirmative things like ‘My love for you keeps growing every day.’ or ‘I’m so lucky to fall in love with you every day will remind you that your love for each other grows, no matter what.
Keep up the sexual connection.
It’s impossible to achieve physical intimacy through online conversations. You have to make an effort to be sexually attracted to each other even when you are apart. Sending flirty texts like ‘What’s up, sexy? Or, “I can’t even say the things I want to do to you” will be great.
Ask them to come over.
Even if it’s not possible, ask your partner to come over and see you right away. They will realize how intense your emotions are and how much you truly miss them. Say something like, ‘Please come over right now! I miss you so badly!” Prioritize physical intimacy through your texts.
Say you want to cuddle.
Cuddling is one of the most special forms of physical intimacy. So, if you ask your partner to cuddle with you via text, it makes them feel special. Your chats need not be sexual because other forms of intimacy like hugs and kisses, cuddling, and spooning are also very important.
Tease each other.
When you say things like, “Imagine me kissing you all over right now!” it pokes their imagination, and they become eager to be with you again. Teasing your partner, sexually or otherwise, will help you maintain the connection you lack in a long-distance relationship so that you never lose passion.
Discuss your sexual fantasies.
We all have sexual fantasies, right? To keep up the sexual longing for your partner and the intimacy that you share, you should often discuss your sexual fantasies and things you plan to do once you get back together. Say something like ‘This time, let’s have sex in the pool.”
Say that they turn you on.
If you say something like ‘Even thinking about you right now is turning me on!” it grows your sexual intimacy despite the distance. Sex is an important part of a relationship, and it’s important to remind yourself and your partner that you are constantly attracted to them, emotionally and physically.
Be mindful of the tone of your texts.
Texts are a great way to camouflage your feelings, but often, the tone of our text might let our partner feel something we didn’t really express. So, always be mindful of your language and clarify if there’s a misunderstanding. If your partner knows you well, they will recognize your emotion.
Avoid arguments through text.
Solving a dispute over text is very difficult because the chances of having a misunderstanding are stronger. So, avoid having arguments over text. If you have to discuss an issue, be patient and wait until you meet each other in person. This is an important conflict-resolution skill in all relationships.
Saving a relationship over text is not that easy because you have to be careful about what you do or say. No matter what, your efforts to be in this relationship and fight for it should be expressed clearly. These little texts will work for you if you are genuine.
The challenges of being in a long-distance relationship:
- The distance gives rise to more frequent conflicts.
- Reconnecting after staying apart for a long time can be uncomfortable.
- It’s hard to be patient about several things.
- You waste a lot of time and energy traveling.
- There is a lack of effective and honest communication.
- Trusting each other is often difficult.
- The chances of cheating on your partner are more prominent.
- You might develop unrealistic expectations and hurt yourself.
- It affects your personal life and priorities too.
- There is zero physical intimacy.
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