If you are just getting into a relationship after being single for a long time, there are things you should always keep in mind. Starting a new journey with a new person is not always easy, and these tips and facts will come in handy while making important relationship decisions.
Be sure about why you fell in love with them.
You cannot start a relationship because you find someone funny or hot. Being with someone has a much deeper meaning, and if you don’t know the proper reasons, you will soon get bored and want to end your relationship. So, think wisely about why you like this person so much.
Be clear about your emotions and expectations.
Before you get seriously involved with someone, make sure they have a clear idea of your feelings for them and what you expect from this relationship. Clear and honest communication is very important in a relationship, especially in the initial phase when you are just getting to know each other.
Understand their physical and emotional boundaries.
Respecting personal space is very important in a new relationship. Both you and your partner might have had some unfortunate experiences in your past relationship or life in general that resulted in your emotional and sexual boundaries. Get to know your partner better so that you never cross these boundaries.
Make an effort to show that you care.
It’s important to show extra affection in the initial days of your relationship. Your understanding and love are just building; the more you work on it, the stronger it becomes. Call and text them more often, bring them gifts, and do everything to show that you genuinely care about them.
Discuss your emotional needs.
Getting into a new relationship means you will be getting involved in a massive exchange of emotions with someone you are just getting to know. If you are still recovering from your last bad breakup, this can be very stressful for you. So, always talk openly about your emotional needs.
Be flexible enough to experiment.
This relationship will be completely different from your last one. So, if you are looking for some emotional growth, you have to try to build an interdependent mental connection with your partner. Learn to adapt yourself to this person with a personality and perspective that you are not familiar with.
Ways to be a more flexible partner:
- Let all relationship decisions be two-sided.
- Always think before you speak or act.
- Always share your plans with each other before executing them.
- Always say things clearly; don’t beat around the bush.
- Your first choice is not always the best one.
- Take a step back and think about your situation.
- Know that your partner can point out your mistake, and it’s okay.
- Don’t try to make them act or think to suit your needs.
- Prioritize their needs as much as yours.
- Give no space to jealousy and misunderstanding.
- Always have effective communication during a crisis.
Don’t ignore the red flags.
The excitement of being in a new relationship should not blind you enough to avoid the red flags. Even if you are very happy, always look out for the red flags that might be a problem later. Treating your relationship with balanced logic and emotion helps you make smarter decisions.
Don’t take your vulnerabilities casually.
The rush of emotions while getting into a new relationship makes us let our guard down. Be smart and vulnerable gradually. Don’t give away everything about your life in the initial phases unless you are sure that your relationship has reached that stage where you can trust each other wholeheartedly.
Understand their body language.
In the initial phase of a relationship, it’s important to understand your partner’s body language- the gestures and signs they make. This will help you develop a better romantic understanding of your relationship. Knowing how your partner uses their eyes, hands, or other body parts helps you understand them better.
Control your expectations.
Every time we begin a new relationship, our hearts flutter with joy upon thinking, ‘He/She is the one for me.’ But it’s practical to get a hold of your expectations and remember that things in this relationship might not turn out as perfectly as you are expecting them to.
Keep your insecurities aside.
You cannot begin a relationship with an overprotective and jealous approach. Behaving positively to show you care is not a very smart thing to do because, eventually, you start ignoring their boundaries. So, keep your unhealthy insecurities aside and begin this relationship on a positive note with trust and love.
Reciprocate their positive approach.
The fear of getting ourselves hurt often ruins our chances of being in a healthy relationship. If your new partner is making a genuine effort to make you feel special and take this relationship seriously, reciprocate their approach. Pushing them away because of your fears will just ruin your connection.
Tips to promote positivity in every aspect of your life:
- You determine what’s real and what’s not.
- Start your day with a strong and hopeful attitude.
- Prioritize exercise to strengthen your body and mind.
- Indulge in motivational books, songs, and films.
- Be around positive people who help you grow every day.
- Keep an open mind to everything; don’t reject perspectives before thinking.
- Avoid focusing on the negative part of everything.
- Be grateful for every opportunity you have been given in life.
- Listen to music whenever you feel low.
- Accept your present, and don’t dwell on the past.
Learn from your past experiences.
Instead of holding on to the grudges and disappointments in your past relationships, learn from them. Analyze what went wrong and make it a point not to repeat the same mistakes in your new relationship. Always remember that even the worst experiences of our lives have something to teach us.
Spend as much time together as possible.
If you want to build trust and understanding in your relationship, spend more time together. Go on frequent dates and make exciting and adventurous memories in the initial days of your relationship that you can cherish forever and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place.
Give each other gifts.
Everybody makes an extra effort at the beginning of a relationship. Your gifts need not be very costly, but they should be something your partner absolutely adores. Also, giving gifts and surprises helps you have a clear idea about your partner’s preferences, and thus, you get to know them better.
Compliment each other.
A strong relationship is mostly based on mutual respect and appreciation. Let your partner know that you are ready to go the extra mile to make them feel special. Compliment every little thing you like about them, and they will reciprocate your praises too. This is how a relationship grows.
Work on building up your physical intimacy.
Physical intimacy is a very important part of every relationship, and the more you work on it, the better it gets. Learning to be comfortable in each other’s presence, knowing each other’s bodies better, and understanding each other’s sexual expectations are very important in the initial phase of your relationship.
Treat them how you want them to treat you.
Since you are just getting to know your partner in this relationship, they will reciprocate your behavior and feelings towards them. So, if you want them to treat you with love and affection and respect you wholeheartedly, you have to do it to them because it’s a mutual reciprocation-based connection.
Celebrate the good things in their life.
If you want your partner to feel special, celebrate their achievements. Let them know how proud you feel about them and how lucky you feel to have them as a partner. When you make an effort to make them feel special, they are naturally attracted to you and this relationship.
Be the most supportive partner in this world.
In the initial days of a relationship, we want to believe that our partner will support and encourage us in all our endeavors. So, let your partner know that you will support them, no matter what. With mutual encouragement, you’ll soon be each other’s biggest pillars of strength and motivation.
Don’t hesitate to apologize.
Relationship problems begin when you are too proud to admit that you are wrong. So, to develop a better understanding with your partner, let them know that you are ready to apologize for your mistakes, and they should do it too. Holding onto your selfish ego never benefits a relationship.
Work through your conflicts.
Making your relationship work needs a lot of dedication and patience. You will have disagreements with your partner, but if you lose your calm and refuse to face complex situations head-on, your relationship will end before it begins. So, if you face a conflict, be patient and work through it.
Don’t say ‘I love you if you don’t mean it.
It takes some time before you truly fall in love with someone. So, don’t rush into saying ‘I love you to each other if you are not ready yet. Saying something so serious when you don’t mean it wholeheartedly will make situations uncomfortable later when you truly understand your feelings.
Don’t bring up your exes.
Never talk about your past relationships if you want your present relationship to work. If you keep discussing your exes, your partner will think that you are still stuck in the past or think about your ex. This will scare them away, and your relationship will have an uncertain future.
Don’t be a bossy, maniacal partner.
If you keep pestering your partner in the initial phase of your relationship, they will just consider you bossy and, eventually, go away. Respect personal space and never overstep your boundaries. Let them communicate with you at their own comfortable pace. This will let them know you respect their boundaries.
Don’t try to show off unnecessarily.
You don’t need to brag about your personality or wealth to make someone fall in love with you. Let them see and understand you as the person you are and let them make the decisions. If you are constantly showing off how great you are, you are just being narcissistic.
Don’t pry into their past.
Just like not bringing up your past relationships, don’t interfere with their past life as well. If they tell you something willingly, listen to it but don’t pry into their life and try to know things they are not comfortable sharing with others because that makes a completely untrustworthy partner.
Don’t be scared of disputes.
Like all relationships, you will have disputes. You will fight, but it’s up to you to let them turn into ugly fights. Don’t be scared of having fights; rather, try to find a solution peacefully. The way you deal with a crisis tells a lot about you as a partner.
Don’t let your life revolve around them only.
Yes. You have a relationship, but it’s not your only priority. You have other responsibilities, too- family, career, friends, etc. If you start making your partner the center of your life, you will not be able to focus on anything else other than this new relationship. This is extremely unhealthy.
Don’t neglect your mental health and self-esteem.
This new relationship should boost your emotional growth instead of affecting your mental health or self-esteem. So, if you ever think that your partner is constantly making you question your self-worth or this relationship is draining you emotionally, you have to consider it seriously and end it before it begins.
These are some of the important things to consider before getting into a new relationship. The perfect way to begin this adventure is to be flexible but also maintain a balance of logic and emotion. Enjoy the feeling of falling in love but don’t forget to look at things practically.
Some of the most important reasons to end a relationship:
- Your partner abuses you physically., mentally, or sexually.
- Your partner doesn’t hesitate to proclaim their faith in infidelity.
- You have zero communication with your partner, and you are afraid of their judgment.
- Your partner has addiction issues and is reluctant to get better.
- Your partner always argues on every matter and refuses to accept their mistakes.
- Your partner treats you disrespectfully or unkindly.
- Your partner has a problem with your family and friends.
- Your partner uses emotional blackmail to suit their needs.
- Your partner wants to end this relationship.
- Your partner refuses to go to a relationship counselor if needed.
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