7 Red Flags in a Long-Distance Relationship

While being in a long-distance relationship, things can get complex but what matters is the mutual understanding between you and your partner and the efforts both the parties put in.

But what if despite you giving a hundred percent you do not get back what you deserve? Sometimes you might even try to ignore the little hints that the relationship with your long-distance partner is going downhill, but for how long will you do this? 

Here are red flags in a long-distance relationship

When it’s time to leave a problematic relationship, you must leave. Just don’t stay, it can only make things worse. Not getting prioritized or feeling left out can initially seem trivial but the consequences are going to be severe if you don’t pay enough attention and simply try to ‘unsee’ things.

Here is a list of several significant red flags you have to get acquainted with so that you won’t be heartbroken in a long-distance relationship.

Always unavailable. 

We all know that a long-distance relationship requires a massive amount of time, dedication, commitment, and mutual effort for it to successfully flourish than a regular relationship.

One must always be ready to face the reality. The lack of availability is one of the early traits your partner might reveal which is never to be ignored. 

The presence of your partner can do a lot. In a long-distance relationship, indeed you will not be able to feel your partner’s presence but their virtual presence itself can mean a lot, like being with you on a video call while you are confused as to which outfit to choose and they can lend a hand to pick a nice outfit for you. 

It is equally important for you and your partner to make time for each other. Being unavailable can leave your partner disappointed in many ways.

This is often a hint that your partner is losing interest in you, in your relationship, and might even be seeing someone else.

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Feeling better in your partner’s absence

We all are the happiest around someone we love the most. We tend to be the best version of ourselves and not pretentious. Being in a long-distance relationship and still getting the vibe can be difficult, but it’s high time you move out of this relationship if you feel better when you’re alone. 

The feeling of not belonging to your partner can have a very adverse effect. Maybe it isn’t just the distance, it can be a sign that both you and your partner are growing apart.

Nothing excites you.

A long-distance relationship can be tiring but it’s always about keeping up that spark between you and your partner intact.

Text messages from your bae, you wake up to, the first call while grabbing your breakfast, the selfies from each other’s workplace, if these tiny little things in a relationship excite you, you’re on the right track. 

But what if suddenly your partner starts acting weird and the texts, phone calls, and selfies start reducing day by day.

Surprisingly nothing excites you anymore, emotionally drained and exhausted you might not even be able to connect to your partner like you did before. This can be an indication that something’s not right in your relationship. 

Commitment and trust issues.

If your partner is constantly checking up on you, searching your whereabouts, and continuously making you answerable to many questions, then it is a small red flag that is popping up in your relationship. Things can get ugly if you don’t sort it out. 

Uncertainty is an inevitable part of long-distance relationships, but if your partner is not at all confident about the status of your relationship and displays a lack of interest then it’s time to say goodbye and leave. 

Why commitment and trust are important in a long-distance relationship

Feeling worthless.

If your partner doesn’t consider you and your values and doesn’t give a space in your relationship, then simply understand it’s because they’re not the one meant for you. When someone truly loves you, they’d never let you down no matter what. 

Understand that a good partner will always try to understand your problems and resolve the issue by thinking about them from your perspective.

Rather than this, if your partner makes you feel terrible about yourself, not only does it affect your relationship but also your mental well-being. Never let anything that deteriorates your mental health take over your mind. 

The best option would be to walk out of the relationship and be happy. Sometimes being single can give you its fair share of benefits too, as you can peacefully introspect as to what you want in life and can figure out your personal and career goals effectively. 

Lack of proper communication.

It is a well-known thing that “communication” is the most vital aspect of any relationship. Be it a couple, a parent-child relation, employee-employer relationship, communication is the base that builds the foundation of any relationship.

If your partner does not make any effort to maintain contact with you regularly, you might have to seriously consider re-thinking about your relationship and whether it is working for you. 

Once you strongly feel like there is a huge communication gap between you and your partner, you can try mending it, and if still, it does not work, lower your expectations and get ready to face the harsh reality. 

Why communication is important in long-distance relationships

Nip it from the bud if you do not see this going anywhere. 

Always make sure to take hints of turbulence in the early stage of a long-distance relationship. A long-distance relationship usually can be an adventurous and eventful journey if you’re in with the right person, and just like any other relationship, long-distance relationships have their share of pitfalls. 


It can be challenging for the fact that you and your partner rarely get to meet each other. If your partner is not willing to work on your relationship and has no plans to talk about it, you will probably have to go through a lot of unpleasant happenings. 

To break up or not is solely your decision. But whenever you see a red flag waving at you, don’t forget to consider it seriously rather than ignoring it.

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