There is always magic in being able to connect in person, which is unfortunately not possible in a long-distance relationship. When a long-distance couple moves in the same city, place, or even the same apartment, it might feel surreal for some time.
Getting to see and spend time with your partner can be exhilarating. Once you have successfully finished the “long-distance” phase in your relationship, the next big thing is the “move-in” part.
Here is what you need to know about reuniting after a long-distance relationship.
The transition from a long-distance couple to a live-in couple can challenge you as an individual and a couple. To make things easier, here are a few tips on how to reunite after a long-distance relationship.
Talk about expectations.
Expectations can be tricky. If you do not open up about your expectation to your partner and vice versa, it surely results in a lot of chaos. Both you and your partner might indeed have expectations from each other in a relationship both individually and also as a couple.
Especially while you are planning to move in after the long-distance phase in your relationship, the next huge step requires a bit of talking beforehand. In this situation, it is best to talk with utmost honesty so that you and your partner can do things accordingly.
Adjust; you are not alone anymore.
After getting to spend a lot of time alone and apart from your partner, when it’s finally time to move in, it might take some time for both of you to adjust to each other.
Say, for example, your partner might leave some containers open in the kitchen or might misplace the books you have neatly arranged on the shelf.
You might feel angry but wait, and things will be fine once you tell him that you do not appreciate this behavior, and it will be fine. Learn to let go of small quirks of yours.
Make your own time.
Even though you and your partner might be getting a lot of time together, make sure you both plan things. Take out the calendar and plan in advance what all fun activities you two would be doing together apart from daily chores, work, and all that stuff.
You can plan a romantic date night, a fun ‘Netflix and chill’ weekend plan in your PJ’s. Do not forget to add some crazy and adventurous touch to your outings, and it will only help you maintain a passionate and lively relationship.
‘Me time’ is a must.
No matter how much you love to do things together with your partner, make sure you get some ‘me time’ too. If you are someone who loves to read books, do find time to do this and do not postpone it thinking your partner might feel left out.
Your partner too might have some hobbies, in the meanwhile, they can do it. When there is enough space in a relationship, everything falls in the right place.
It is mysterious how our body and mind are connected, and for optimum functioning, our body and mind should be in sync. ‘Me time’ in the long run lets you think about yourself and also relax at the same time.
Do not mess with stress.
Move-in can sound a lot romantic and cheesy, but it has its pitfalls. Probably you will be stressed in the beginning. The shifting part might have been hectic, and then you would feel a lot of pressure to maintain the relationship.
But remember that you and your partner have survived the ‘long-distance’ phase. So, nothing can be impossible. Talk out things. If you are feeling stressed, tell your partner how you are feeling. They will surely understand and come up with a solution.
Both you and your partner might have different backgrounds, cultures, traditions, preferences, and opinions. Disagreements will arise. It is completely normal not to agree upon things that you don’t like or can’t comply with your partner.
Make sure you and your partner respect each other’s differences rather than judging. It is human to have differences, and that shouldn’t be a problem in your relationship.
Chit-Chat, keep your relationship alive.
Now, it is not a secret that “communication” is the most vital part of any relationship. The earlier long-distance phase in your relationship must have been equally difficult for you and your partner.
There must have been days when you both just wanted to be in each other’s arms, but the distance kept you apart. From talking via phone calls to sitting on the same couch, life has taken a spin now.
Now that you both are close does not mean that you have to talk less. Keep the same energy level when it comes to opening up to your partner. Sharing everything with your partner can only do good to your relationship.
Keep in touch with your friends, do not forget them.
It is funny how you or your partner might tend to forget about your friends while moving in together. This can emotionally hurt them, and that is not something you can be proud of. Find time to hang out with your friends too.
With your partner moving in, that should not stop you from socializing with your community. Being with your people can bring a lot of positivity to your life.
Physical intimacy can take time.
While in a long-distance relationship, the distance between you and your partner always made sure to have strong emotional bonding, and mostly, that’s how things might have worked in the past.
Now, when you are together, the pressure to maintain physical intimacy must be very much. It surely takes time. Talk to your partner about your concerns regarding this matter.
Fantasy can be soothing, but the reality is often harsh.
Reuniting with your love after living miles apart can be a new and enthralling experience. The first week after moving in might be so full of energy and fun, and later on, it will slowly decrease. But do not get disheartened.
You and your partner together should make your company happening and dynamic. Moving in awaits a lot of challenges, but always remember that you and your partner are together in this.
A slight carelessness can ruin things. Do not rush things. It can spoil all the fun. To keep a relationship alive, there must be mutual trust, empathy, and loads of love. Ignite the spark in your relationship, and never let it fade away.