Falling in love is a beautiful feeling. When you get to know your partner, every second feels special. But being in a long-distance relationship, unfortunately, you will not be able to spend time together with your partner.
Miles apart you would only be able to hear them through calls or virtually meet them via video calls. With the distance between the two of you comes a lot of insecurities and doubts.
Haven’t you thought at least once about whether your long-distance partner is cheating on you? Ever had a nightmare of your partner cheating on you with someone else and you suddenly wake up, flustered, and realizing it was just a nightmare?
Here are signs your long-distance partner is cheating on you.
Now coming to ‘cheating’, it can mean different to different people. For some, it can be about not maintaining secrecy or intimacy, and this can ultimately affect one’s expectations in a relationship.
It would be terrible to know that your long-distance partner is cheating on you, but you can always take the hints and approach it more practically. Here are some of the signs that your long-distance partner is cheating on you!
Sudden behavior change
One fine day your partner suddenly starts behaving strangely. They do not seem to be into you as much as they used to or even starts to ignore the little things they used to notice earlier. This can not only leave you sad but also the distance between the two of start growing.
Slowly, you will not feel excited as you used to while talking to your partner. This might mean that they are having second thoughts regarding the relationship.
If your partner is constantly giving you excuses while you want to have some time together then, it is the right time to pause and look back at what went wrong between the two of you. Being in any kind of relationship not only requires a lot of effort but both the partners must make enough time for each other and that’s how things work, especially in a long-distance relationship.
Avoiding casual talks
The ‘communication’ part is the most vital when it comes to long-distance relationships. Ringing up your partner would be a part of your daily routine.
Apart from your very serious conversations about life, work, and future goals, you and your partner would love to engage in some casual talks like watering the plants on your balcony, daily updates from weekend plans, etc.
Also, the two of you might be checking in with each other daily and suddenly you see a decrease in the number of calls you receive, and your calls not being attended to, and your partner is chary of telling you the truth and avoiding those little chit-chats.
Then certainly it is high time you start looking at things or else the consequences are going to be awful.
Being sneaky all the time
Your long-distance partner is bound to have new friends while they move to a new city/country. To get familiar with the new place it is always a good idea to spend some time with a bunch of new friends.
But what happens if your partner is always hanging around with them and does not give you any details instead vaguely tells you things. Now that is not a good sign and is a matter of concern.
The defense drama
Upon getting several hints that show your long-distance partner’s lack of interest in your relationship, you make your mind and decide to confront your partner to get some clarity about the relationship.
If your partner gets infuriated by your confrontation and pulls out a ‘defensive’ card, then it’s time to move out of this relationship. They are trying to hide something from you.
No plans to reunite
A huge part of conversations while in a long-distance relationship would be your next reunion. You would be planning where to go, what all things to do, plan a small fete champetre and the list goes on.
You and your partner would be excited to meet for real every time the two of you plan a reunion and this long-distance is only a temporary phase in your life.
If your partner reluctantly opposes your ‘reunion plan’ then it clearly shows your partner’s lack of interest and non-committal attitude which strongly suggests a breakup. No plans to reunite.
Not being available and being busy all day, forgetting to mention several things from their routine, and purposely bringing excuses that they have forgotten about it. These are some of the indications that your long-distance partner is being inconsistent in your relationship.
A slip of the tongue might even give you an insight into what your partner was hiding from you.
If your long-distance partner does not like to disclose your relationship to their friends, family or colleagues, or even close friends then you are in for some serious trouble. Why would one keep their personal life so secretive?
Especially if you have come a long way in your relationship and they still do not want to make it public, something smells fishy. It is time to rise and evaluate the situation and confront your partner about this issue.
Past relationships might come in handy
It is time to get your secret FBI skills into action. Get to know more about your long-distance partner’s past. If they had a relationship in the past, make sure to know details as to what exactly the reason for their breakup was.
This will certainly help you to get an idea about your partner’s personality traits. Stalking older pictures from your partner’s social media handle might help too.
Find that “someone”
This might be a rare scenario, if your partner ever mentions a particular person and accidentally spills some details about them subconsciously, then it is time to take notes. Most of them will not be mentioned that one person to you, but mistakes do happen, right?
When you hear about that person, make sure you don’t jump to conclusions at the beginning, instead, listen to your partner patiently, and if these repeats, you have to confront your partner and seek clarity about that one mysterious person.
Cheating partner? Let us figure it out.
If you have come across any of the above-mentioned signs, it is time to be proactive and take initiative.
Take things slowly
Ask your long-distance partner to take some time for you so that you can talk peacefully about the concerns regarding your relationship. Before these signs, you have to be alert if you have seen any red flags before.
That can be a precise indication that your relationship is falling apart.
Many a time, you might even find your best friends or dear ones warning you against this relationship, never ignore them. Understand why they told you so because they genuinely care for you and your happiness.
Sort out priorities
A relationship should always mean the same to you and your partner, if there is any difference it has to be sorted out as soon as possible. If your partner does not care about where your relationship is going, then they are not the one for you.
The right time matters
Sometimes we have to leave a party early, because the longer we stay the uglier it can turn out to be. Likewise, in a relationship that is sinking, it is always a great idea to leave at the right time. If not, it can have a very adverse effect on your mental well-being.
It is very hard to move on from the past but dwelling in the past also won’t do good. Early detection of a problematic relationship can make things better.
Lastly, never stick on to anyone or anything that hinders your growth!