How To Stop Being Shy In A Relationship

I have always been the one introverted person in my friends’ group. And it is the worst if you are shy in a relationship πŸ‘©β€β€οΈβ€πŸ‘¨. Even if you want to do certain things with your partner, your shyness will get in the way, and at the end of the day, you will go to bed disappointed. 

And you hate to go to bed sad. So you so badly want to try and come out of your shell. And that is exactly why you are here, right? 

Don’t worry. I will help you in getting out of your bubble 🫧 of shyness and help you go to bed happy and satisfied with how you spent your day!

Here is How To Stop Being Shy In A Relationship

There is nothing new and nothing wrong with you when you are shy in your relationship, even if you’ve been dating for a few weeks. Everyone takes their own time in a relationship, and if your partner is forcing you to stop being shy even if he knows you cannot, I don’t think they are the right one for you. 

If you are here, your shyness is stopping you from many exciting things in your relationship, and you want to overcome it, right? Well, mate, you are in the right place!πŸ˜€

Here are a few tips that I have coined especially for you, Love!⬇️

Ask yourself why you are shy.

Shyness stops you from achieving almost everything, and as the quote goes,

“Shyness is like a prison that locks you up in your own mind.”

β€” Unknown.

If there is anyone who can stop you from being shy, then it is you, my dear! It is only you who can overcome shyness. Take time and dig till the roots until you find what is stopping you from not being open. 

It might be the way you have been brought up, past traumas, or just anything. You might have also faced rejection and criticism, so you wouldn’t want to put yourself through it again.πŸ˜€

Positive affirmations help you a lot more than you can imagine.

As the quote goes,

“Affirmations are like prescriptions for certain aspects of yourself you want to change.”

β€” Jerry Frankhauser.

Your brain works in a way, and that way is to always protect you from fears when, in the first place, your brain is the reason you fear those things. Really. Tell your brain otherwise, and it will believe it is true, and voila!Β 

You aren’t shy anymore. Having a positive relationship with yourself makes it less likely to be affected by others’ judgments. πŸ˜„

Be honest, you guys!

Let them know beforehand what they are signing up for! So be honest about the things you are open to and things that you dislike. Let them know that you are shy! Let them know that you don’t give in too easily without thinking about a lot. 

After all, it is so common to be shy, which is totally normal! And you should know that shyness stops you from having fun!🫢

Don’t rush your relationship!

Knowing you are shy, you tend to put a lot more effort into your relationship and try to make it work. And while you are doing this, you seem to rush things. But a relationship doesn’t work that way. So take your time and be happy. 

Happiness is a way you can escape your shyness, no matter anything. So go ahead and learn to be happy with yourself first.🫠

Practice dates will help you.

Your practice dates take you a long way, really. Practice with your friend or relative whom you are comfortable with, and you will be confident. 

It should be like a real date, so realistic that you can ease up a little when you already have that! You could also use a few TED talks, which will help you, my dear friend!πŸ˜‰

Plan all your conversations beforehand.

You have to plan beforehand what you are going to talk about and how you will respond to a few things. You have to be open about your goals and dreams, your fears, your likes, everything. 

You cannot, of course, know what the other person might ask you, but you need to be ready from your side. This will help you from being shy over a few conversations, at least.🀌

Let’s take a short quiz to check if you are shy or not, shall we? Let’s go!

  • How do you feel when you meet new people?
  1. I am nervous and uncomfortable.
  2. I can manage.
  3. I hate to talk to new people.
  • Are you comfortable with starting conversations with strangers?
  1. Yes, I am comfortable.
  2. I’m hesitant.
  3. No, I absolutely hate starting conversations!
  • Do you worry about what others think of you?
  1. Yes, and it affects me a lot.
  2. Not much.
  3. Nope, I don’t care what others think.
  • Do you avoid difficult conversations with others?
  1. Yes, I run away from problems!
  2. I can manage.
  3. No, I have to sort it out, no matter how hard it is!
  • Do you feel free to express your expressions?
  1. Yes, I voice my opinions!
  2. Depends.
  3. Nope.

So, how well did the quiz go for you? Do you now figure out where the areas that you have to improve? Now, let’s go back to what we started, shall we?

Let them do most of the talking.

Another way is to let the other person do most of the talking. So you don’t have to feel pressured to initiate a conversation or let silence create awkwardness between the two of you. 

This will also help you in getting to know your partner and deepen the connection between the two of you. Be a good listener if you aren’t great with words.☺️

Have your topics all planned beforehand.

If you find yourself always out of topics to talk about, then make sure you go prepared. Sit alone and plan all your topics beforehand so you don’t run out of topics and let the awkwardness linger between the two of you. 

Read books, watch movies, or be up to date with the news so you have a lot to talk about. This way, you will never again run out of topics.🫣

Say ‘yes’ often.

Stop yourself from always turning down hang-out sessions or parties. This is a way you can get out of your shell of shyness and finally let the best out of you. Saying no always pushes you even more into shyness and introversion. 

Push yourself to go out and have fun, but don’t feel pressured. Never rush yourself, and you will slowly overcome your shyness.πŸ’―

Take a few deep breaths.

Anxiety is the reason you are often feeling shy. So take a few deep breaths to calm yourself and go ahead. Sometimes, it is very stressful if you come in contact with such situations where the spotlight is on you; trust me, I know it. 

So practice a few exercises that calm you and let all your shyness and fear evaporate into thin air.πŸ’«

Eye contact.

Eyes will tell what words can never convey, and as the quote says,

“Eye contact is a universal form of nonverbal communication. It speaks volumes.” β€”

Akiroq Brost.

Eye contact will do all the communication, my friends! I understand that it is hard for you to maintain eye contact if you are shy. But you have to at least give it a try, my dear.Β 

Practice making eye contact when they are speaking or even when you want to share a few things with them. There is nothing wrong if you take your time in doing so.🀭

Let your body language do all the talking.

Being shy, all you want to do is to create some physical space between the two of you. But when you are in a relationship, then it is your duty to not let your partner feel closed off. 

You should not let them think that you are being uncomfortable when they are around you. So you could lean a little closer to them when they are talking or hold hands in the most random situations.πŸ₯°


So these are all I have for you, and I hope that these helped you get out of your shy situations and be more confident. Though these might be a little hard, a little push will not harm you. Do leave a few comments so others will follow it, too, my lovelies! 🌸

So don’t forget to drop a few comments if you liked it, and also let me know if you want more such information, okay? So for now, adios amigos!

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