Fights are inevitable in any relationship, no matter how understanding the partners are or how strong their bond is, fights are bound to happen. However what is pivotal to a relationship is not the fights but what comes after it, how you make up for it, and how you apologize and the following might be of great help.
Here are tips to apologize to your husband.
Bring him a present– The best way to apologize to someone very close to you is by bringing him a present that he will not be able to say no to. Gift him something that would instantly make him happy and he would have to accept your apology.
Write him a sorry note– Write him a small note saying that you are sorry for what has happened and that it will never be repeated. Leave the note where he will notice it and would not be able to stay upset the moment he reads it.
Cook his favorite dish– The easiest way to say your apologies to him is to cook him something super delicious and would instantly take all this tension rising out of the house. Surprise him with a tasty meal and he will accept your apology.
Keep his workspace clean– Small efforts like keeping his workstation clean and organized, keeping his wardrobe clean and his office bag ready say the word sorry in a million different ways and he would know what you are trying to say.
Address the situation– Address and acknowledge what has already taken place. Mistakes have been made and it is not in your hands to change any of them. Focus on making up for what has already happened and leave the rest to him.
Write him a song– Write him a song that would take your message of sending him an apology to him and he would not be able to get it out of his head. It is not too much of a hassle to write one if you really feel bad for what has happened.
Hug him– Give him a tight and long hug and whisper your apologies in his ears. Let him know that this will never be repeated by holding him as close to you as humanly possible and not letting go of him even if he insists on it.
Take him out on a date– Take him out to his favorite place and when he is feeling a bit better, talk your heart out. Apologize truthfully and express from your heart. He would know that it is high time you guys buried it in the past and moved on.
Go out for movies– Go out for a movie that he has been excited about for a long time. When he is in the theatre and feeling all happy and excited, he would not even be able to recall the reason behind the fight and you guys can have a good time together.
Listen to some good music together– Lighten up the atmosphere and let the music do its magic. When you guys start connecting over your favorite beats, all the grievances would leave the room, and all that there would be left is romance and some good time.
Tell him how much you love him– The simplest way to apologize to him is to tell him what he means to you and how important he is in your life. Tell him that you love him and that you could not risk losing him no matter what happens.
Ask him to let go– Request him to let the past be in the past and move on to being the cute little couple that both of you are. Reassure him that mistakes like that would never be repeated in the future and that he can expect you to be better.
Send him a sorry photo– Send him a cute little photo or even a short video of you saying sorry to him and send it to him when he would expect it the least. When he is caught off guard like that, he would have no other choice but you adore you.
Write him a poem– Write him a poem saying that you regret what has happened and that you want to apologize to him from the bottom of your heart. Write it from your heart and make sure that it touches him and expresses how you feel.
Make a social media post– Make a long and detailed social media post saying all the things that he wants to hear including how much you love him, what he means to you, and most importantly, that you are sorry about everything.
Bake him a cake– Bake him a cake and decorate it to fit your purpose by writing sorry on top with a small sad emoji to melt his heart. He might be a bit hesitant initially but if it tastes good, you would have your forgiveness in no time.
Share a few drinks– Sit with him for a few of his favorite drinks and speak your heart out. When the alcohol starts doing its work, everything feels lighter and all the tough things in life become just a little bit easier, even forgiving.
Call him– Call him the first moment that you get and do not allow his pain or his anger to take over him and kill any chance that you might have at forgiveness in the future. Uproot this plant of hatred before it gets any nourishment and apologizes right away.
Go for a drive– Go for a long peaceful drive where there is just you, him, and a lot of time for you to make things right. Take baby steps towards the whole situation before you finally reach your destination and apologize. Have a good time on the way back.
Wake him up- Wake him up in the sweetest way possible and say sorry to him when he is not on his guard and he would least expect it. Pick a morning when you think that he would be happy waking up and not be salty in the morning.
Go to a sports event– Go to watch a match of the team that he follows like religion and if they happen to win the match, apologize to him right away without wasting a moment. He would forgive you without even thinking about it.
Play games with him– Play games with him and we are not talking about any emotional mind games. Maybe a video game that he likes, a sport that he enjoys playing, or maybe even a board game would do the trick for you.
Appreciate him being in your life– Appreciate him for being in your life, appreciate him for being the person that he is, even if things are not that great. Just let him know that whatever happens, he will be the only person that you love.
Look back into the past– Take a trip down the memory lane and remind him of all the times that they felt invincible because of each other, all those times when he truly felt loved, and all those memories that he keeps safely in his heart.
Talk in an apologetic tone– Whenever talking to him, speak in a very humble and apologetic tone until things get better and he is willing to let everything go. Make him feel that you feel bad for whatever has happened.
Be sincere– Be sincere and give meaning to your words when you say sorry to him. They would not affect him if sees that your apology is nothing more than some flowery words said to draw him in, make genuine efforts to make things better.
Take some time off– Give him some time off to figure out what he really wants and what he wishes to do. Sometimes constant apologies begin to feel like nagging and lose their values. Express your regrets and let him be. Believe in him to do the right thing.
Acknowledge his feelings– Acknowledge the fact that because of whatever that has happened, he has ended up on the wrong side of the bargain and that he does not deserve to be hurt, in pain, and treated that way.
Understand the real reason– Get to the bottom of the things and solve the entire problem from the grass-roots level. When the real reason for the problem is taken care of, he would have no reason not to forgive you and come back to being normal.
Make it up to him– Make it up to him by doing everything that he expects of you. Tighten all the screws that you have made loose and do everything in your power to not make him feel wrong. He deserves at least this much.
Empathize with him– Empathize with what he is going through. Put yourself in his position and ask yourself how would you feel if your partner behaved similarly or did the same things and how would you react?
Make him understand your perspective too– Empathize with him but also try to make him understand your side of the story. Even if you have not made the right decision in the past, help him understand that it felt justified to you back then and that you are genuinely sorry for it.
Talk with your heart-Whenever talking to him, make sure not to be pretentious or say things just because he wants to hear it from you, as he knows you enough to see right through the act. Instead, be real with your emotions.
Look for a solution– Look for common ground and a mutual solution that would not put anyone in an inferior position. When the right solution has finally been found, the apology would be a million times more meaningful.
Understand your priorities– Understand that he has always been at the top of your priorities list and that any mistake, any fight, or argument has no value compared to him. His happiness is all that matters to you and do everything you can to bring him to smile back.
Be willing to change– Be willing to change the parts of you which stand unjustified and might hurt the relationship in any way. Be more than ready to make this effort for the best of the relationship and to make the bond stronger, he would do the same.
Compromise, if necessary– A stable relationship and a happy marriage are all about finding a common ground. He would be more than happy to take a few steps and compromise if he believes and knows that you would do the same. Take the first few steps yourself.
Back up your words with actions– Back your apology, back all your words up with your actions, and give them real value and meaning. When you apologize to him, you promise him that it would never be repeated, and make sure you keep that promise.
Hear him well– Hear what he has to say with complete attention as only then you would know what has truly gone wrong or what might have intentionally or unintentionally hurt him. You would know what to do once you figure it out.
Make him feel important– Make him feel like the most important person in your life which he rightly is. Make him realize the position that he holds in your life and your heart and let him know that you would never want to lose him for such a small fight.
Be smart with your words– Be very picky with your words when you are apologizing. He should hear and understand exactly what you want him to hear. Make sure your feelings do not get mixed up because of your words and he gets the message.
Understand when to end the conversation– Stretching the apology for too long might cause it to lose its value and have less impact on him. Say what you have to in a short and crisp way and leave the rest to him.
Observe him closely– Observe what he has been doing or how he has been behaving off late to make sure that you do not find him in a bad time or a bad mood when you want to apologize to him. Pay attention to how he has been lately.
Wait for the right moment– Wait for the right moment to tell him about your feelings and apologize to him. Do not be emotional about it when he is in no mood for a lengthy talk but just wants to be left alone and wants to relax.
Have patience– Do not be over-enthusiastic and unrealistic. Do not expect him to forgive you the moment that you say sorry. Forgiving is the hardest thing to do sometimes and let him have his own sweet time before he does it.
Use a different language– You could even switch things a bit and try apologizing to him in a different language. Pick a language that he finds interesting and when he hears you apologize, even if he does not understand it immediately when he looks it up on the internet, he would want to forgive you.
Tell him that you regret it– Make him understand how much you regret this fight and make all those mistakes. Tell him that you would take it all back in an instant if you had the power but sadly you do not and all you can do is apologize for what you have done.
Be willing to repent– Be willing to receive any punishment that he sees fit and face it completely if it makes him happy and takes things back to how they were. You have to stand up and say that you have made a mistake and are willing to face the consequences.
Do not repeat the mistake– Do not, no matter what happens, repeat the same mistake again. It is already heartbreaking to see the person you love do that to you but when she does it again, he might not be able to handle it.
Do not use the word but– Avoid using words like BUT, which sound wrong when a person wants to be apologetic. Keep your attitude and ego on the side when looking for forgiveness and be as humble and numb as possible.
Stop taking him for granted-Do not take him for granted, never take him or his feelings lightly, and treat him differently. Relationships make or break in an instant and things like that make it easier for it to break off and no apology can help you then.
Be grateful– Be grateful for the man that he is and the kind of husband that he has always been. Make sure to tell him, when you apologize, that irrespective of whether he forgives you or not, you will always be grateful to be with him.
Leave him a voice message– Leave him a voice note or a voicemail if you do not have the strength to face him yourself or even when he refuses to confront you directly, make it as emotional and genuine as you feel.
Give him validation– Validate him as a husband and tell him all the things a happy man would want to hear on a good day. Once he gets back to normal and feels like the amazing husband that he is, even a simple apology would be enough for him to forgive you.
Do not keep going in the past-Do not keep repeating and reminding him about the things that have already happened. This is only going to make things worse and make him want to hold on to it even for a longer time.
Do not react– Do not react carelessly or be impulsive when he lectures you. You deserve every bit of the scolding that he is unleashing on you and you have to listen to it all with your mouth shut and your ears open. Once he is told all he wants to, he will feel a lot lighter.
Stop trying to control the situation– Do not try to keep the situation under control when it has already slipped from your hands. You have moved past trying to be in control, now he is under control and you can do nothing but hope for the best.
Send him a sad photo– Send him a photo where you look very sad and look as if you really want to talk to him and be with him. There is no counter for cuteness and he will have to give in if he keeps looking at it for some time.