How To Friend Zone Someone Politely: 70+ Tips

If you love that one friend, but wait, not in THAT way but you don’t want to lose them either, it could be a really difficult situation.

Friendship gives heartbreaks too. When you really love someone as a friend, it affects you when you have to lose them. Here are some of the ways that you can friendzone someone politely.

How To Friendzone A Guy

When friend-zoning a guy, you need to be careful about how you do it. Most guys will soon become desperate and chase you more if you don’t take the right steps.

Give Subtle, Obvious Hints. Rather than being aggressive or too blatant, play it clean and give subtle hints that are sure to tell him that he is no more than a friend. This way, he can understand, and the two of you can still be friends.

Suggest Hanging Out In Groups. When hanging out, hang out in groups rather than spending time one on one. This will make him understand that you aren’t really too comfortable being solely around each other. 

Don’t Lead Him On. While you might like the attention, do not lead him on. This will only make him think that you like him. Firstly, you will be playing around with someone’s feelings which is morally incorrect and secondly, the more time goes by the harder it will be for him to heal and recover. 

Maintain A Distance. When friend-zoning a guy, it’s best to give him less importance and maintain a distance. This will show him that you are not interested in him and he too will try to withdraw himself from this situation.

Be Clear Cut. You could take the high road while friend-zoning a guy. Just be straightforward and tell them that you don’t like them. Also, make them know that you might have to stop being friends to avoid complications.

Know If You Truly Want To Friendzone Him. You too need to know if you like this guy or not. You could also give it a chance and see if it works out fine for you. Many girls often are in a dilemma that makes them like a guy and not like him at the same time. Reassure yourself whether you truly want to friendzone him. You can try to focus on the positives and it might just work out for the two of you.

Don’t Give Him Hope. When friend-zoning a guy, don’t try to be too nice to him. Being compassionate will only give him a false hope that you have feelings for them and you care. Rather than him misinterpreting the situation, you can take a step back and not let him, harbor false hopes. 

Don’t Dress Up Especially When Around Him. When around him, try and be in your comfort clothes. This will tell him that you aren’t really interested in him and you see him as a brother. Although he might feel hurt, he will soon get over it. 

Talk About Other Guys. The best way to tell him that you aren’t into him is to talk about your other guy friends. You can also talk about how attractive you find a particular guy. He will feel bad at first but will give up eventually.

Treat Him As A Friend.  Friendship is beautiful. Tell him that you want to keep what you have and not jinx it. He will gradually understand the value of friendship. Talk to him as you would with your other girlfriends. 

Don’t Take Unnecessary Favours. Taking favors will only show him that you need him and he can be the hero of the hour. This will also make him harbor false hopes in his head and he will soon make more efforts. So when going for grocery or doing some projects, don’t unnecessarily ask him to pile on. 

Draw A Line. Give him a piece of your mind. Unless you set some boundaries, chances are that he will constantly nag you. This is why you need to maintain some clear rules with him. Guys tend to become needy and desperate and once that happens, they might become aggressive. Just avoid complicating the situation.

Talk To Other Guys In Front Of Him. When in front of him, talk to other guys. This will get him jealous but he will get over it soon. Also, you don’t need to feel bad as you need to know that you are not liable to like them back and have your own life too.

Don’t Be Touchy. Try and touch him less. If he tries to touch you, resist it and you can tell him straight. Just don’t be rude. Touching will intensify the feelings for him. Guys are as sensitive to touches as girls are.

Talk To Them About Being Friends. Tell them why being friends with each other is great. You may change the way he sees you and you two can even become the best of friends. Friendship stays for a lifetime, relationships are not sure to last so long. Also, tell him how much you want him as a friend. 

Say That “You Are Like A Brother.” This is an indirect way to tell him that you don’t see him in that way. This might sound rude but this sure to work. He will withdraw his feelings soon and you can be free.

Don’t Be Possessive. When being friends with someone, a lot of situations may occur when you might just like him a little and get possessive if he gives attention to someone else. This will simply be manipulative and you won’t be doing the right thing.

Don’t Show Jealousy. In continuation with the above point, if you show jealousy, you are giving him hopes that you might just fall for him. Believe it or not, it will be very difficult for him to withdraw his feelings later and won’t be able to cope up with the injustice.  

Set Him Up With Other Women. You could be his wing girl and set him up with other girls. This will show him that you aren’t really interested in him and he will respect you for how much of a good friend you are. You will actually be able to compensate for his love void. 

Change The Subject. Whenever a situation crops up where you two are talking about the situation, change the subject immediately. This might get him frustrated but in the long run, evading the topic will be beneficial to both of you. You’d rather be friends than be nothing at all.

Show Him Your Negatives. You could show him your bad habits – if you smoke, smoke in front of him; show him how high maintenance you are or similar things. This might be a huge turn-off for him and subsequently, lower his attraction towards you. 

Be More Like His Guy Friends. Behave more like his guy friends. Go to a game together or just knuckle bump him when you meet him. Don’t be too feminine in front of him and he will soon lose his feelings for you.

Be Honest. You need to be honest with him. The truth might hurt him but eventually, you will have to tell him someday or the other. He will have respect for him even though his heart may be broken. At least you won’t be the girl who keeps such a guy just for the sake of getting attention. 

Take A Step Back. If you are getting too involved in the situation and you are losing focus, take a deep breath and think things through. Figure out how you can tell him and also be ready to lose the friendship if need be. This will mutually benefit the two of you. 

Don’t Give Unnecessary Indulgence. Do not indulge in him touching you or crossing the line. Be firm when around him. He might overdo things without even knowing, you need to give him a reality check.

How To Friendzone A Girl

Girls generally tend to be more sensitive and get emotional. Be careful that while friend-zoning her, you are not too harsh while doing it. Here are some ways to help you out.

Be Nice. Girls are very emotional. Be nice to them and as a man you should not be extremely aggressive or go overboard. Appreciate her feelings for you and treat her well even if you do not want to be with her. Once a friend, you should always be a friend. 

Respect Her. If you don’t like her back, do not be the guy who treats her badly and disrespects her. You should be sensitive towards her feelings and respect her as you should be a man of high morals. 

Tell Her Directly. You need to have a talk with her like a man rather than being a baby about it trying to ignore stuff. Man up and talk to her. Tell her respectfully that you don’t like them back but in the same light you don’t want to jinx the beautiful friendship that you have. You need to convince her that you will be with her throughout as a friend.  

Don’t Lead Her On. Like girls, a lot of manipulative guys like the attention they are getting and in turn lead the girl on. This is simply pathetic behavior as a guy and you don’t want to be the guy who is known to be manipulative within your social circles. If you don’t like her romantically, just be open about it. Don’t give her false hopes. 

Don’t Expect Friendship. When friend-zoning a girl, you also need to know that once she has had feelings for you, they might not go away too soon. And for this matter, you might have to break the friendship in order to let her heal. So don’t expect friendship back from her. 

Do Not Flirt With Her. Guys have an innate need to flirt with girls and if you are that guy then just don’t do it. She might perceive that casual flirting in the wrong way and you will be misleading her even after knowing about her feelings. 

Feel Free To Talk To Other Girls. When around her, you should talk to other girls too. She will notice this and although this will hurt her, she will soon realize that this was never meant to be and move on. This could be an indirect way of telling her that you don’t like her. 

Empathize With Her But Don’t Sympathise. You should be empathetic and if you can help her in some way you should. But if you sympathize too much, she might feel that you actually like her and this will even make her a little weaker. 

Talk About Your Exes. When around her, talk about your exes. You could tell her that you still have feelings for someone even if you don’t. This will also tell her that you are sharing things with her as a friend. 

Make Them Feel Comfortable. Whenever around them, there is no reason to make things heated. Instead as a man, you should know how to ease out the atmosphere. She will have more respect for you. And you too won’t be the guy who makes unnecessary use of her feelings. 

Treat Her Like A Guy Friend. This is a great way of showing her that she is like a friend without being too blatant. You can pat her on the back or maybe give them the knuckle bump once in a while. Do anything that is not sexual.

Hang Out In Groups. Do not hang out one or one or she may think that you want to spend time with her. This will make her think that you are interested in her romantically. Hanging out with other friends will ensure that you two are friends and the message will be conveyed very well.

Flirt With Other Girls. Don’t be afraid to flirt with other girls In front of her. She will understand that her chances with you are less and will withdraw her feelings. Try and talk to a lot of girls in front of her. She will soon give up and also think that you are quite a playboy even if you aren’t. That negative will make her want to think things twice. 

Don’t Be Available Always. If you are too available for her, don’t do it. Have your own life and she will soon get the message that you aren’t really interested to pursue a relationship with her. 

Show Her Your Bad Habits. Show your darker side to her. No one wants to be with someone who is broken and has a lot of bad habits. This may be a turn-off for her and she will want to refrain from being with you. This is a great way to shun her away. 

Don’t Reply To All Her Texts Or Calls. Don’t be the guy who is always calling or texting her. She might think that you are doing this because you are attached to her in the wrong way and eventually you will be sending the wrong message. 

You Haven’t Committed A Crime. Know that you haven’t committed a crime by not accepting her as your partner. It is completely normal to not like someone back and there is nothing to be sorry about. 

Make Her Believe That She is Almost Like A Sister. This is a great way to tell her subtly that you don’t have romantic feelings for her. Tell her that she is the sister that you never had and always wanted. She might be taken aback but at least you can keep being friends. 

Don’t Touch. If you don’t like her back, try and avoid touching her. Women are very sensitive to physical touch and this may intensify their feelings towards you. Instead, go for a handshake or a high five once in a while to show the friendly side of things.

NEVER Take Her To Bed. Since you don’t like her romantically, DON’T take her to bed or involve yourself in anything sexual with her. This might get her even more hooked on you and you will simply be taking advantage of her feelings for you. Have some respect for yourself and her. Also, if your other friends get to know about this, chances are that they will boycott you too. 

Treat Her Like A Friend Publicly. When in a social setting treat her like a friend. This will send her a firm message that you don’t like her in that way. You might want to be friends with her but nothing more than that.

Step Aside. If you feel things are going downstream big time and you aren’t quite being able to handle the situation, take a step back and move away from this situation. It will be hard for you too. Losing a friend might make you feel sad but you two will get over it soon enough. Talk to your friends if need be. 

Stop Being Friends. If you feel that she is becoming too possessive and complications are keeping on rising between the two of you, just cut off touch and completely avoid her. Know that you have done nothing wrong and you are free to live your own life based on your choices. 

Reassure Yourself About Your Feelings. If you feel you can take a chance with her and she is worth the time, think twice before you shut the door. Make a list of all the things that are great about her and how much you two can connect. This way you can understand better and see the bigger picture. 

Know If It’s Time To Break The Friendship. When nothing seems to work, break the friendship. This will be hard to do but it would be best for you and your friend. Take your time and heal and let her heal too.

It might be hard to friendzone someone. Being a friend brings some responsibilities and you will not want to hurt a friend unnecessarily but things happen in life and you need to do what needs to be done. Act mature and be strong!

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