15 Methods to Understand if Your Partner is Lying Over Text

Sometimes, you may feel your partner is lying to you and hiding something. It can make you go crazy as no matter how much you try; your partner tries to change the subject and avoid your question.

Some lies are okay, but some can damage your relationship. Thus, you should follow certain methods to know whether your partner is lying to you over text or not.

Methods to understand if your partner is lying over text:

Being purposefully vague

Being Purposefully Vague

If your partner lies to you, they will have trouble committing to a solid story. All their words will sound completely vague, as if they have no meaning at all. It can be a sign that your partner is lying to you and having trouble hiding it from you.

Your partner will mix lies with the truth and leave out specific details they don’t want you to know about. 

In such situations, it can be difficult to know whether your partner is lying because they are telling half-truths. Thus, it will be difficult to differentiate the lie from the truth.

Spotting a lie in text

Unlike calls, where one has to answer a question quickly, there is no such need in text messages. One can take any amount of time to reply and come up with excuses. In such situations, you need to spot the lie in the text messages carefully.

Sometimes, the messages will be too obvious to be a lie, and you can detect them. But in some cases, it will take more than just simple analysis as you will have to check for the length of the message, the time your partner took to reply to you, and so on.

If you carefully analyze the texts, you can easily spot a lie in the messages.

Keep changing the subject

Keep Changing The Subject

When you raise a subject and ask your partner questions, you will notice that your partner keeps changing the subject. They will refuse to answer your questions and will try to divert you from the main topic.

In some cases, your partner may even tell you that they are busy and will have to leave as something urgent has come up. They will find it difficult to answer your questions and will come up with excuses to get away from your questions.

Over complicating things

Over Complicating Things

As per a study, when a person is lying over text, they often complicate things by adding too many details in their replies.

It is a sign that the person is lying and is trying to avoid the question. Thus, they further complicate the answer and give a long and way too detailed response.

If your partner is also replying to you in such a manner whenever you ask a question, then it means that your partner is lying to you. They are trying to justify their actions by writing lengthy replies which do not make sense.

What to do when you catch your partner lying

Avoiding your questions

Avoiding Your Questions

You may notice that whenever you try to ask your partner a question about something, they will try to avoid your question and change the subject. No matter how hard you try, they will not answer your question.

They might try to explain things to you without answering your question. They may also turn the question around you to avoid your question. Sometimes, they even tell you they are busy and cannot talk right now to avoid your question.

Always trying to prove that they are being honest

People who have something to lie are the ones who always try to prove that they are honest and truthful. Such people will do everything to prove their honesty, fearing that someone might start doubting them.

If your partner is also trying to prove that they are honest and how innocent they are in recent times, then it indicates that your partner is lying and hiding something from you. People who have nothing to fear don’t feel the need to prove their honesty to others.

Their wordings are off

After talking to your partner via text for a long time, you may have become accustomed to their writing style and communication skills. You can easily know something is wrong when your partner sounds a little bit different than usual in particular conversations.

You may notice that their wordings are off, and their writing style is not normal. Even their words may have spelling mistakes, which can raise suspicion.

People who are hiding something tend to get scared of being caught. Thus, they often make mistakes in a conversation like spelling mistakes, writing style different than usual, and so on.

Taking a lot of time to reply

Taking A Lot Of Time To Reply

Under normal circumstances, when you talk to your partner, they will reply to you fast. But when your partner may be lying to you, you may notice that your partner is taking a lot of time to reply.

You will see that your message is seen and your partner is typing but taking a lot of time to reply.

It can be because your partner is trying to hide something from you and is thinking of a lie to tell you. They are trying to come up with some explanation that will help them avoid your questions. This is why, in such cases, they may take more time to reply.

Why is my partner lying to me

Trust your intuition

Trust Your Intuition

Sometimes, it can be tough to determine whether your partner is lying to you. At first, all you have is a hunch, and it is not much to find out the truth. But that should not stop you from uncovering the truth and why your partner lied to you.

You need to trust your intuition and keep looking for the truth. After spending so much time with someone, you can easily know when someone is lying to you and hiding something. Thus, if you feel that your partner is lying to you over text, you should trust your gut.

Abruptly end the conversation

Abruptly End The Conversation

When a person lies to you on your face, they tend to have trouble making eye contact with you as they know they are guilty. The same is true for text messages where someone lying to you will have difficulty talking to you.

If your partner is lying, they will come up with excuses and tell you they will talk to you later. When you confront your partner about a topic, they abruptly end the conversation and say something important has come up.

Later, when you bring up the topic again, they will refuse to answer and will change the subject. This indicates that your partner is having trouble trying to lie to you.

They swear that they are telling the truth

When a person is honest and truthful, they don’t need to swear on anything to show that they are telling the truth. Usually, people who are telling lies are the ones who need to prove their honesty because they fear getting caught. Due to this, they try their best to convince others that they are true and honest.

If your partner is acting the same way and swearing a lot lately, then it means they are hiding something and lying to you. Your partner will use words like “I promise,” “I swear,” and so on to prove that they are being honest. It indicates that your partner is not being truthful with you and is clearly lying.

Replying with too much information

Replying With Too Much Information

In a face-to-face conversation with a person, you can tell whether they are lying to you or not just by looking at their facial expressions. When asked about something, they will come up with a lengthy explanation and talk about things that you never asked.

Similarly, in a text conversation, when you confront your partner with a question, you will notice that they are replying with a lengthy message explaining various things that are irrelevant to your question.

It is a sign that your partner has something to hide and is not telling you.

Turn the blame on you

When a person is lying, they try to come up with various explanations and excuses to cover up their lie. Sometimes, they may even succeed in making others believe their story.

But when they realize they are on the verge of getting caught, they will try to blame others to divert their attention from themselves.

Your partner may behave in the same manner when they are lying to you. When they have no other options, they will become frustrated and turn the blame on you. Your partner will start counting your mistakes in an attempt to hide their lies.

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