You suddenly notice your ex posting pictures with someone else or even stating that they are in a relationship. You might be wondering if they have truly moved on from you.
In this article, we discuss some signs that help you understand if your ex is in a rebound relationship.
They date someone who is completely opposite to them.
Your ex is with someone who has a completely different personality than you. They are in a rebound relationship to probably feed their ego or express their dissatisfaction with the connection they shared with you. It somehow sends a message that you initiated the breakup, and they are emotionally stronger.
They flex how beautiful their new relationship is.
Even though they haven’t known their new partner for too long, they keep posting lovey-dovey posts online to express how happy they are. This is just their attempt to make you feel bad, although this is a rebound relationship and they are not emotionally connected to this person very well.
Their relationship is superficial.
There is always something fishy about a rebound relationship, and your gut instinct tells you that. No matter how much they show off their growing connection, you will always feel something unrealistic about it. So, if your ex’s new relationship appears very superficial to you, it’s probably a rebound one.
They try to fast-forward their relationship.
Your ex suddenly announces their engagement with someone they’ve known for just a few weeks. You might think they have moved on, but there’s a chance they are considering this a rebound relationship and trying to forcefully incorporate the energy and understanding of their past relationship with their new partner.
They don’t cut off contact with you completely.
They seem to be very happy with their new partner, but they still keep in touch with you. This is a clear sign that they are just trying to make it easier for themselves to move on by being in this rebound relationship. Somehow they subconsciously want you back.
Signs that it’s time to cut off contact with someone:
- They are never there when you need them the most.
- You know they talk behind your back.
- No matter what you do or say, they have a problem with everything.
- When you have spent time with them, something doesn’t feel right.
- They are constantly canceling plans.
- You have amazing memories, but that’s it.
- You know that deep down, you can’t trust them with anything.
- They don’t accept you for who you are.
- You are mentally venting about their behavior or actions.
- Even when you meet up, it’s mostly out of obligation.
They are constantly telling you about their new relationship.
If you are still friends with your ex, they will constantly try to make you feel jealous by speaking of their new rebound relationship or how they have a better connection with this person. If they really wanted to move on, they would have cut off all contact with you.
You are always a part of their relationship.
They make plans to hang out with their new partner and you. They do this because they consider this to be a rebound relationship, and more than committing to it, they want to flaunt what they have to make you feel bad. Subconsciously, there are three people in this relationship.
You can tell they are confused.
Your ex probably went into this rebound relationship without thinking properly. Since they are just trying to get back at you, they are constantly confused about what they are doing. They can neither move on from you nor dedicate themselves entirely to this new relationship. Their behavior says it all.
Their new partner is just like you.
It’s possible that your ex gets into a relationship with someone who is just like you, as if they are trying to move on. They are just comforting themselves with a mirror image of you. This kind of relationship benefits no one because they are unknowingly hurting their new partner.
Their new partner is not a part of their social circle.
Your ex is dating someone but is reluctant to introduce them to their family and friends. This lack of commitment shows that they consider it a rebound relationship and aren’t looking for something serious. Less exposure makes it easier for them to dump this person when they start feeling better.
They never discuss your breakup with their new partner.
If your ex is in a rebound relationship, they have no explanation for why you broke up because they don’t understand it clearly. They are still confused; consequently, they are always vague about your relationship and always avoid the topic when their partner asks why they ended things with you.
Their new relationship is extremely casual.
Your ex probably won’t have a serious relationship with someone so soon after your breakup, but if they are keeping it overly casual, it’s a rebound relationship for them. Trying to get at you has left them with no opportunity to heal and prepare themselves to commit to something new.
Signs you are keeping it casual with your partner:
- You have directly told them that you are not ready for something serious.
- You rarely have romantic dates. You just meet up.
- You don’t know anyone from their family or best friends.
- You are constantly avoiding meaningful, close personal conversations.
- You deliberately become unreachable to them every once in a while.
- Your relationship consists of some activities that you just do together.
- You don’t hesitate to make excuses and cancel plans, even when you know they understand it.
- Your conversations are always benign with ‘me’ and not ‘we.’
- You mostly have last-minute plans which you couldn’t cancel.
- You don’t do anything to make your partner feel extra special.
They are always telling their new partner about you.
This signifies that your ex is in a rebound relationship. If you truly move on from someone, you will never want to talk about them, especially with your new partner. But if you and your past relationship are frequently the topics of their conversation, you are still on their mind.
They compare their new partnership with you.
Every person has their own personality. Suppose your partner doesn’t accept this and instead constantly compares their new partnership with you or the differences in these two relationships. In that case, it is a rebound relationship for them. They are just trying to get over you and make themselves feel better.
They refuse to open up.
If your ex is in a rebound relationship, they will never open up to their new partner. Since they aren’t taking it seriously, they lack the comfort needed to share their feelings with someone. So, they try to bottle up these emotions instead. This affects their connection with this person.
They date someone they already know.
Your ex probably had a crush on this person while dating you. Now that you have broken up with them, they found an opportunity to go out with them and see how things work out. Their romantic interest was just disguised as friendship. Even this qualifies as a rebound relationship.
They have an on-and-off relationship with that person.
You often hear they have broken up with their new partner and then patched things up again. This new relationship is constantly on and off because they are unable to make a decision. So, they never have a fixed mindset regarding their new relationships because they are mostly rebound ones.
They seem too invested in their person.
How can you get serious with someone just within a week of meeting them? So, if your ex is repeatedly calling and texting their new partner or trying to act extra lovey-dovey, it’s just their strategy to make you feel bad. They have zero interest in truly having a relationship.
They are always measuring their new partner against an invisible yardstick.
Their new partner might not feel this clearly, but they are constantly comparing them with you. They want to achieve a subconscious satisfaction that they are finally with someone better, even if their heart doesn’t agree with it. These comparisons affect their behavior and approach towards them and this relationship.
Your ex is always emotionally unavailable.
This person will never have your ex’s emotional support and motivation when they need it. They are still recovering from their recent breakup and are not prepared to be invested in someone else. But since they are forcing themselves to be in a rebound relationship, they are unknowingly hurting them.
Their bitterness towards you is often expressed.
Although they say that they have moved on from you and are thinking of beginning a new chapter of their lives, their new partner can often sense lingering bitterness and undealt anger towards you in their words and actions. They lash out at times or end up having a breakdown.
They only flaunt their relationship in front of you.
Although your ex is in a very casual relationship with their new partner, whenever you are around, they want you to believe that it’s a serious affair. They start getting extra clingy and shower affection on their partner because they want you to see how happy and satisfied they are.
All their affection is limited to social media.
Your ex makes a long post on social media to express how much they adore and respect their new partner or how blessed they feel to be in this relationship. But deep down, they don’t care a bit. They indirectly express that this is just a rebound relationship for them.
They are exploring multiple options.
Since this is just a rebound relationship, they are also keeping their options open. They make their new partner feel as if they are the love of their life but are casually flirting or even dating other people too. They don’t have the clear judgment to make an informed decision.
Your ex freaks out whenever commitment is discussed.
Your ex’s new partner has to walk around on eggshells in this relationship. They can’t even mention commitment or loyalty because your ex would start freaking out. This is an alarming sign for them because someone who hates commitment or dedication can never give them the future they probably want.
What to do if you are in a rebound relationship?
- Never have high expectations.
If you are in a rebound relationship, you can never expect too much from your partner. You must understand that you are just a way for them to kill them and overcome their breakup. So, even after knowing the truth, if you choose to be with them, it’s your decision,
- Know that you might end up feeling used.
The person who goes into a rebound relationship with you might subconsciously be doing this to overcome the pain and bitterness of going through a breakup. So, there are chances you will feel used at times. In that case, you should rethink your decision and end the relationship if needed.
- Try to be helpful.
If this is a rebound relationship and your partner needs help, you can be helpful and guide them through the process. Hear them out and try your best to make them feel better. If things go well, you might end up having a normal and mutual relationship in the future.
- Don’t hold onto them.
If your partner realizes that this is just a rebound relationship and wants to break up, agree to it willingly. This way, you save your mental peace and also help them choose the right path. If you force them to be in this relationship, it will affect both lives severely.
- Be honest about your feelings.
If you feel bad knowing that this is just a rebound relationship for your partner, express it openly. It’s important for them to hear the truth. So, explain yourself if you are wrong. It is always better to have direct communication in such cases instead of beating around the bush.
Rebound relationships mostly don’t work out, and one person might end up hurting the other. So, if you know what kind of relationship you are in, think hard before making a decision. No matter what, you should never hamper your mental well-being by being in an unhealthy and toxic relationship.
Signs that you are committed to your partner:
- You are not obsessed with each other because you have reached a level of emotional security.
- You reach out to each other, but you are not dependent or desperate for attention.
- You don’t feel like exploring the dating arena for other suitable partners.
- You have met each other’s family and closest friends.
- There is nothing you can’t talk about for hours.
- You don’t always need to have sex to be physically intimate with each other.
- You feel comfortable spending time with each other.
- You split the check but don’t fuss about it.
- You know they will always have your back, no matter what.
- You always wish the best to happen to each other.
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